You might dislike hearing about what attracts women, and it might not be comfortable, but it has to be done. And then, at the end, you have to come to grips with how things are, if you want to optimize your results. There’s really a few groups of guys, when it comes to their understanding of what attracts women, and they’re all equally wrong.They all have a wrong theory, that they believe in. All these guys are latching onto just separate parts of the truth, while nobody truly gets the full picture. And then, every guy it turns out, is at the same time right about what attracts women, and at the same wrong about it. That’s why my main inspiration is to show how all of these theories are true to an extent, and form a bigger picture out of the whole lot.

How True Is It That Its All In The Money?

The sad thing about trying to dispute this, is that in many cases it is true, and sometimes, it can be a deciding factor, but most of the time, its not the deciding factor. The funny thing is, on the opposite of the “money is everything” guys – lie the other extremist group. This other group say that looks, money and fame have zero bearing on attraction! These guys go so far as to say looks don’t matter one iota, and its all about what you say and do. These people believe in a thing called game.

This “anti-wealth”, game group is just as wrong, because they simply hold another piece of the puzzle, thinking that its the full picture. Sure, some of the things they teach you to do or say, do work some of the time, with some of the women, but here’s the part they’re missing… Their stuff often doesn’t work much better than chance, and only because of massive exposure. They delete and ignore when it doesn’t work, and exaggerate when it does work. The thing they most often blind themselves to, is their blind disputation of the power of status, looks and other “superficial traits”.

How Much Truth Is There In The Way Nice Guys See It?

The nice guy theory, states, that women like nice guys, and are attracted to nice, respectful, courteous behaviour. And then, in the real world, you see how niceness doesn’t actually work out for most guys who try it out. So many of them are known to waste years swearing on this concept, yet getting nowhere. Now, how come women say they like nice guys? Are they lying? Do women like being treated badly? Most women, in truth, do like niceness, but only if all the other pre-requisites are there… Such as the guy having character, confidence and a spine. The problem is, that in the world, most often, they don’t have this choice. Many times, the “nice” guy is really a creep in disguise, or extremely unattractive. She’s left to decide between an openly admitted jerk, and a jerk disguised as a nice guy.

This is where we start to clear the fog of confusion a little. The mistake all of these guys make (in whatever camp they might be), is to focus on one trait, and focus all their attention there. The sad part is, there’s nothing for them to find. So whatever “thing” it is that they find to work for them first, they decide to declare it “the one”. This is how a guy will hear women say they want nice guys, and then missunderstand that to mean “whatever else I do, and however much I suck in other areas, if I’m nice, women will want me”. Or let’s look at a more subtle example. Let’s take a guy who notices a wealthy lawyer attracting women. He will ascribe all of the laywer’s success to wealth, ignoring that the lawyer is also confident, outgoing and a good dancer.

Let me make this clear, I’m not telling you that looks or wealth don’t factor in. In fact, wealth and status do increase your attractivness, and sometimes, if high enough, can replace other bad traits. But what you need to get, is that there are many other qualities that not only have the same value, but they can also replace wealth or looks. What all camps do wrong, is to take one trait, and make it the most important in the world. The opposite of wealth idolizers are guys who say “its all bout confidence!!”

It Comes Down To Your “total Score”

Take all the traits that different theories glorify, and them combine all of these traits together. What you will get, is the overall “value” that you have with women. It is the combination of all these traits together that produce your value as a man, not any individual one trait. And it is this value that attracts women. The core of the female attraction mechanism is based on the overall value of a man, not so much the individual bits and pieces. Some guy can have big value by being super-developed in one trait, such as wealth, and others, can have multiple traits, all developed to modest levels. A guy can be obsessed with being at the top of one field, and attract women like that, or have a dozen areas he’s good at. Both strategies work.

It is this focus on overall value, that’s behind the success of many womanizers. They focus on overall value. This is why you see womanizers who neither have money nor looks, nor do they focus on “gaming” women. They tend to have the best overall value. Instead of being the world’s most famous fitness model, they just build a moderately fit body that’s better than average. But, then, this womanizer couples that with better than average finances, a pretty cool social lifestyle, good dancing skills, pretty good social circles and a fun personality.

Now, I hope most of this information didn’t confuse you. I tried to make it as clear as possible, but its really a big, complex subject… So if you want to figure how you personally can attract more women, feel free to check out this special quiz I created just for you. It will let you know exactly what you’re doing right or wrong with women and what to do, in order to attract more women.